My cousin told me before tonight (when the reality show Bachelor) has just ended what would happen and that there was a plot for ratings involved.  See my post.  It did.  The story is that Molly was the obvious choice from day one but that wouldn’t make the show interesting so they plotted Melissa to win so that she could be dumped.  Check out “Reality Steve” for more details.  But even if there wasn’t a plot and he just had to dump Melissa on national TV because he wasn’t into her anymore, it left a bad taste in my mouth.  I’m boycotting the show.  Bad form.

You may see a couple posts from me in the next two days.  I was itching to write after my cousin, Lindsay, filled me in on some details about the reality show “Bachelor”.  It’s engineered.  Not that I didn’t realize that before but I had no idea to what extent.  Here are a few of my thoughts on love and romance after contemplating “Bachelor” realities.

1-If the guy thinks someone else is better for him, if you know you’re quality, stuff like that doesn’t matter in the long run.

2-A good fit is important to me.  Marriage, at least in my oppinion is worth the sacrifices when he’s a good fit.  Perfection isn’t my goal, satisfaction in a relationship and happiness potential matter to me.  I don’t care exactly what he looks like or what he does as long as I feel like we generally fit.

3-Romance doesn’t replace reality.  I dated a guy once who was super good at the romantic part.  He just had this pet peave for people signing in public places.  Did I mention that at the time I was a full time professional sign language interpreter?  Passion is important but he can’t hate what you do.

4-Myth: Older girls are automatically desperate, picky, too focused on careers, etc.  If you’re a guy and feel that way, you probably should be dating younger girls.  I actually know a ton of cool guys that prefer dating older girls, though.  An older girl knows who she is and has probably had a few reality checks.  Who wouldn’t want that in long term committment?